Im also having the same problem as the OP, but if the first frame does load here it does it very fast (and I dont notice it). I can send and receive webcam to some contacts, but not to others, and most if not all of my contacts use MSN Live.
I was wondering kakaroto if you know of a way around this, or if a fix is in sight (because you sound like you know whats going on!
) ), or if you could just give some more information on why using the microsoft relay servers would cause this problem. Its a real headache!
Im using amsn 0.98b, SVN 11449.